Your Worst Critic Has Been Judging the Wrong Stuff!

dgc impact Aug 30, 2017

I once played a concert that I thought was pretty terrible.

Yet to my surprise, at the end of the piece before I could barely play the last note, the audience erupted into applause and gave me a standing ovation and even several curtain calls!

Honestly, I was mad at them, and maybe even thought they were not such a smart audience. Hadn’t they heard me screw up, hadn’t they noticed the minor memory slip or the fact that I garbled the end of a passage or that I hadn’t paced the crescendo just so?! I hadn’t played perfectly so why were they giving me such a perfect response? You see, I was a perfectionist. The moment I started not being perfect in public on stage in front of my audience, I assumed it could only go down hill from there…and then it usually did. Even still, most nights the audience seemed clueless about my errors.

You see, I was a perfectionist. The moment I started not being perfect in public on stage in front of my audience, I assumed it could only go down hill from there…and then it usually did. Even still, most nights the audience seemed clueless about my errors.

The moment I started not being perfect in public on stage in front of my audience, I assumed it could only go down hill from there…and then it usually did. Even still, most nights the audience seemed clueless about my errors.

It would take years to realize they weren’t clueless, many were connoisseurs, in fact. They were simply focused in another direction than on my imperfections. They were there to be impacted, not merely to be impressed. Once I realized that, I shifted my focus as well in order to impact them. Then, I learned the real difference between my best and my highest best. In my best concerts, I was technically soaring. Things were going like they had in the practice room, I was hitting all the right notes. Even if I was a little tense, I sounded like I belonged in the elite world of Classical music. But in my rare highest best concerts, it was like time stood still. I not only played correctly, I responded on the spot to what I felt the audience was feeling, keeping them on the edge of their seats. I felt joy instead of dread and played with an assurance that the audience wasn’t solely there to judge me to death, they wanted and expected to be moved.

Once I realized that I shifted my focus as well in order to impact them. Then, I learned the real difference between my best and my highest best. In my best concerts, I was technically soaring. Things were going like they had in the practice room, I was hitting all the right notes. Even if I was a little tense, I sounded like I belonged in the elite world of Classical music. But in my rare highest best concerts, it was like time stood still. I not only played correctly, I responded on the spot to what I felt the audience was feeling, keeping them on the edge of their seats.

I felt joy instead of dread and played with an assurance that the audience wasn’t solely there to judge me to death, they wanted and expected to be moved.

So I focused on moving them.

I might have missed a note or three, but they didn’t seem to notice and neither did I. Excellence was still achieved but in more meaningful ways than one.

Being at your Highest Best silences that inner critic because you’re no longer grading yourself on her impossible rubric. Perfection is not the goal and neither is acceptance so you can be free of thoughts about fraudulence or people-pleasing. Your mission is the impact, plain and simple and that changes everything.

At DGC, we teach you how to make an impact, the one you were designed to have on the world around you. But before impact can be had, you have to know how you were uniquely designed to impact. We help you uncover the blueprint that makes it plain. Armed with that knowledge, Highest Best is about to be your mode of operation.

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